I would typically use a Socratic method and just ask them what they are looking for in a relationship. (This is how being helpful might help you later.)
Or it might backfire and depress me even further when I realize that what he's looking for is something I can't give him...
But yes, I should actually help him to figure out what he's looking for anyway. I'm not sure whether he's sure... apart from the fact that he's decided to try dating men, he hasn't exactly given me a lot of detail yet.
Gay men are at a disadvantage in that they don't always realize that men are scum. Straight men are told this all the time. ;)
Oh, I've had my experiences with scum... remind me to tell you sometime about the one-night stand I had with the guy who robbed me. Or the guy who turned out to be a drug addict who stalked me for nine months...
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Date: 2005-07-31 01:22 am (UTC)I would typically use a Socratic method and just ask them what they are looking for in a relationship. (This is how being helpful might help you later.)
Or it might backfire and depress me even further when I realize that what he's looking for is something I can't give him...
But yes, I should actually help him to figure out what he's looking for anyway. I'm not sure whether he's sure... apart from the fact that he's decided to try dating men, he hasn't exactly given me a lot of detail yet.
Gay men are at a disadvantage in that they don't always realize that men are scum. Straight men are told this all the time. ;)
Oh, I've had my experiences with scum... remind me to tell you sometime about the one-night stand I had with the guy who robbed me. Or the guy who turned out to be a drug addict who stalked me for nine months...