Belated "Crap!"

[lance_sibley]

I had a long phone conversation about five hours ago... karaoke tomorrow night has been cancelled due to illness (his).

Crap.

Not that it really matters, because he seems to be... well... oblivious. I could go into tremendous amounts of detail but I'd bore people to tears - and besides, no matter what anyone says, I can hear it his voice. I mean, why else would he tell me about the guy who hit on him on the streetcar this afternoon? I mean, I've told him I find him attractive, and interesting, and everything else, and he still doesn't seem to understand the implications... he laughs and calls me "sweet," and proceeds to ask me if I think he should go out with this guy from the streetcar.

Crap.

Well, he's either oblivious or just not interested...

On the upside, this means I can conceivably be awake in time for my 10:30 cybermeeting Saturday morning.

Silver linings.

In other news... the Gaylaxicon 2006 website has been updated... more updates coming soon.

Comments

[ozreison.livejournal.com]

Don't be disappointed. If he's not interested, he's evil, and therefore not worth the effort. ;)

*hugs*

[randomyst.livejournal.com]

OMG! I sympathize with the man drama.

At least you don't get what I've gotten the last time I was interested in a gentleman. Which is basically that he'd sleep with me if given the chance but date me, mmmm not so much. *rolls eyes*

[rockgoddes.livejournal.com]

I'm sorry, dude...really.

[kaijugal.livejournal.com]

That definately sounds like 'not interested', BOoo to that.

:( You rock! You deserve an equally great guy. ^_^

Just remember, men are like busses...er.. except softer. Well unless you want them to be hard.. um..yeah... *runs away*

[avt-tor.livejournal.com]

I have no idea how this works in the gay community, but among heterosexuals, when a woman does this to a man, she is clearly communicating that she is not interested. It almost never means that she isn't picking up on the guy's signals, it means that she is trying to let him down gently (or at least avoid the subject in a non-confrontational way).


To complicate matters, if a woman is clearly communicating that she is not interested, it does not actually mean that she is not interested under any circumstances. But in almost all cases, it does mean that one has to leave the initiative to them.


The general rule, whether one is looking for a job or a date, is not to act desperate. If you go to a job interview, don't let it be just them trying to decide if they like you, you need to interview the employer to see if they are people you can work with. (Asking "why did your last employee leave the position?" can really change the interview dynamic.) Basically, if you act like you're valuable and you would be doing someone a favor by working for them, you can get them thinking about what they'd miss by *not* hiring you.

Same thing with dating; sometimes you have to step back and make people come to you. If they never have to make that decision in an early stage of the relationship, they'll take a person for granted later.


But if you're talking to a friend (whatever else you might want the relationship to develop into) and they ask your advice, give them the best advice you can. I would typically use a Socratic method and just ask them what they are looking for in a relationship. (This is how being helpful might help you later.)


Gay men are at a disadvantage in that they don't always realize that men are scum. Straight men are told this all the time. ;)

[kosst-amojan.livejournal.com]

Hmmmmmm......

Unfortunately, the logical conclusion is that he isn't interested. But one thing I've learned is that the logical conclusion isn't always the right conclusion. There is one constant in the universe: guys are dumb and are more trouble than they're worth. Well, except for you and me, and few others. But thit list grows shorter by the day.